So far, I have identified over 50 kinds of grief that's losing a loved one. Maybe you are grieving something you do not even realize is grief? What types of grief am I referring to? Think about these: unemployment, loss of being able to drive, lack of having choices for your care, loss of self-esteem, all kinds of abuse, comparing yourself to others, etc.
If you are causing something like these, it can be a cause for depression. And if depression persists in your life, you should seek help from your doctor as well as find someone who is a good listener to help you, sometimes a counselor, pastor, etc.
Sometimes people can be very dispassionate in the way they talk to you when you are grieving or depressed. They may use cliches that do not help, because because they do not know what else to say or think they know all about what you are going through. The truth is, that no one goes through circumstances the same, because each person is different, and because we are different, we go through things in different ways.
Another thing people will try to do to you is control how long you grieve about a death in the family, etc. Because they think they know everything, they try to control your grieving. Some people grieve a short amount of time while others may take years to process something like this.There are 10 steps to grieving, and everyone goes through these in different ways, and not always in order. If you would like to know more about grieving, look for a book called "Good Grief". This is a good book to explain the different steps of grief and to help you on your journey.
You can also look up the steps of grieving on your browser on the computer, then print if you can have a ready reference when you need it. Lately, I have noticed that the steps of grieving are considered less than 10. Try these first, then look for the older version of 10 steps if you are not being helped by the others.
Do not let people tell you how long to grieve. Grieving is a private thing, as unique as you are as a person. Try to stay away from this kind of person if you can so your depression does not get worse. If they ask why you are drawing away, tell them honestly and in a nice way. If they truly care about you, they will listen and change their behavior towards you.
If your depression worsens or remains the same after you explore the steps of grief and apply them to your life, look for professional help. In fact, it would be a good idea to get the professional help as soon as you can, then apply the elements of this article to your life. You have to make the choice if you want to live with grief and depression all your life, or not. You do not have to live this way. You can also reach out to God who is always there to listen if you want Him to be a part of your life. He loves you no matter what is happening in your life or what you have done in the past.
So, now, you have a lot to consider about what is going on in your life. You can be lazy about it, then there is the potential for great harm to happen to you. But if you reach out to God and others, including professionals, you can have a wonderful life. The choice is up to you. Pray about your decisions and use God's wisdom rather than your own. Remember, that He loves you dearly and wants to help you. Will you choose to let Him and others help you? Only you can choose that option. I pray that you will as you look forward to a new start on the road to grief recovery.